Are you in or out?

Are you in or out?

Are you in or out?

Isn’t it absolutely amazing that the whole world changed without war, invasion or hostile takeover?

People were basically sent home and told to take a break from everyday life that many (if not most) people hated. How wonderful! And, how awful. Depending on your point of view…


The irony is that we got what we wanted. Exactly what we wanted, but not the way we wanted it.

Here we are now, at home, happy, spending time with our loved ones and finally enjoying Life. No?

Let’s look at what happened to us. The world changed overnight. A tiny, invisible little virus came along and brought our world as we knew it (and hated) to a screeching halt. All of us thought that this was a temporary vacation, but alas, it has become the new way of living Life. Of course people are dying and of course people are struggling and this is where the total surprise is hiding – people were always dying and of course, people were always struggling – but not all people.

If we take the death disaster out of our new world and realize that people have always died of something and will always die, what is it that shifted and what does it take to thrive in our new time? Please take note that I wrote OUR time, because it belongs to all of us. We have the golden opportunity to make it work for us and shape every day into an artwork that we create individually and as a collective.

In this creative process lies the challenge – are you willing to do whatever it takes? If the answer is yes, you have a lot of learning and work to do, and if the answer is no, well, tough and good luck.

All the YES people have plenty to talk about. How are we going to do this? What is required to thrive and participate in making the new earth a good place for all?

Firstly, we need to think of everything as energy – just as Mr. Newton taught us more than 300 years ago. He said that energy can never be created of destroyed, it can only change form and be stored.

Think of the possibilities when we truly understand that EVERYTHING – including us – is energy. It feels like we can develop into the most wonderful sculptors creating sculptures from clay. Some of will play and create like little children, loving getting our hands dirty and rolling out a snake, while others will be accomplished sculptors creating artworks that touch the soul and are priceless. The only difference is the sophistication of the work.

As a parent and grandparent I derive as much joy from the two-year old’s creations as from those of the art-masters. How is this possible, you might ask? Because of love. I love witnessing the joyful child getting dirty and learning as much as I do from looking at Michelangelo’s Pieta statue. The child is still becoming…and what is not to love? Becoming is the verb you can own. Become anything with confidence, learn new skills and love your Life. Shape it, individually and collectively and create beauty.

The people who love you and themselves will cheer you on in you becoming, just as you will cheer us on in our becoming.

What can you become?

What can you become?

What can you become?

Humans inherently know that they are constantly changing. Just as Life is constantly changing.

Yet, interestingly, most people are afraid of change! They sit and wait in their familiar spaces and relationships, imagining that everything stays the same. This imagined stagnation brings the illusion of comfort and control – ‘safe’ human thoughts.

Let’s look at this illusion from a few unique perspectives:

Firstly, it is impossible for anything not to change. Just looking at the individual, we have physical bodies that grow and age, we have mental bodies that hopefully develop more integrated and abstract thinking, growing in complexity, and we have emotional bodies that also develop in complexity and maturity. We also have a spiritual body that goes through developmental stages to reach maturity, we have relational bodies, dream bodies and bodies of hope.

Secondly, let’s look at our spaces. Our spaces are in constant flux with our environments and others. Whatever and whoever we allow in our spaces, contribute to our experience of all our personal bodies as mentioned above. Start very near you and look at the clothes you are wearing, the room you are in, the people, animals and plants near you. Think of the food you eat. Think about the conversations you have, the trust/distrust your environment causes, the thoughts and feelings of purpose, belonging, love and compassion you feel. Our spaces change the whole time because we are alive and have agency. We move around, share our stories, and enter other people’s spaces too.

Thirdly, we have the illusion of time moving in a specific direction. It doesn’t really matter if time is real or not, what does matter is the personal experience of time: we see ourselves and others age; we experience birth and death, and we orientate ourselves, our hopes, dreams and relationships ‘in time’.

These three perspectives are important to consider when assessing our own quality of Life. Our minds take a snapshot of a significant moment, and we subconsciously compare our reality to the mental image we have of ‘how things should be’. As we update our mental image in line with the change taking place on all these levels and we allow the changes without resistance, we generally experience Life as good. The opposite is also true: by holding onto the initial mental image and not updating it, our various bodies resist Life happening. This means that our idea of Life is fixed and we resist the natural progression or evolution of Life. Unfortunately, our old mental image becomes outdated and far removed from what is really happening in Life. The further removed our idea is from reality, the more problems all our bodies experience.

All of us have the ability to look inside and see what works and what doesn’t – even if doing so is painful. I tell you this, once you have faced those painful aspects of yourself and are willing to update your ideas about self and others, we restore flow. Think of a river that was blocked and the water became stale. Such water is a waste, because it doesn’t mean much. It doesn’t support Life. As soon as the obstacles in the river are cleared, the stale water can once again flow and make space for fresh, Life sustaining water to move. Water is Life!

So, what can you become? You can also become living water. You can sustain Life and give Life, you can wash away debris and dirt. You can give hope. You can become renewed and reverend.

To become the river of Life, your highest calling, you only have to answer one question: “Are you willing?”